我以前的情况跟你老公有点像

住在陌生国度 语言不是很通 找不到工作

导致心情很差 每天很忧郁

在此时

若是老公每个星期有一天要下班会跟同事出去喝喝酒聊聊天

（他当时是没这么做啦）

我肯定会很火大

若一个月有一天要下班会跟同事出去喝喝酒聊聊天

或许我还可以接受

版妈的老公 是男生

我想 他的赚钱压力一定比当时的我还大

所以 他的苦楚我似乎感觉的到

是一种很闷 很无奈 很猫踵

气自己也气老公/老婆 气全世界

版妈加油

sorry i cannot type in Chinese here, that's why i am writing in English

I married to a foreigner too, but i am living in his country My poor language skill plus we have one little child, it makes me to stay home all the time ( our 宝宝 is a honey moon 宝宝 type)

Your husband speaks a little Chinese, doesn't have as many friends as you are and has no job So if you were in his shoes, what would you feel like Isolated in this country!!

Yes, he choose to go to Taiwan and live there (please understand it takes up a lot of energy and courage to do so)), but as you could see International marriage couples have lots of issues, language barriers, culture different, plus the issues that any other married couples could have

If you still want to have this marriage, my suggestion is to find out what is going on in his mind it may take few months to make a man to talk out from his heart

As other suggestions, try to stop hang out with your co-workers or friends weekly, or if you want to go, find a 宝宝 sitter for your child, go with your husband

in my case, I stay home all day, sometimes, just being outside makes me refresh During the weekend, i will just leave house for a couple hours, leave the 宝宝 to my husband Or during the weekdays, after my husband got home, i went for a walk

or else,

If you cannot give up what you had when you were a single, it may also be a good time to think if this is the marriage you want

sometimes (well, most of time) we got to loose something to gain something

It is a fate to meet each other, but it is on your own hands to handle how you two will live together in the future

Ps Oh, by the way, if you already chose to forgive his affair, let it go, don't bring it back to the present It would only bring pain and sadness between you two

sorry to write this long, this is just my humble thoughts for you Good luck!! go for what YOU want

婚姻会因为一些琐事而吵架

如果版妈可以放低身段

多花时间和妳老公沟通

或许情况会改变